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Asiyami Gold writes an inspiring piece on “Investing in Friendships with Women”!

6 out of 10 women if asked will have you know that their closest friends and not women but men. For a whole lot of reasons, some women believe it’s safer to have more men as friends as they would women and in as much as a good number believe in the empowerment and unity of women, they would rather go “Bestie” with the guys than they with the girls.

Recently, popular visual story teller on instagram and the founder of
@shopa.au wrote quite a piece on investing in friendships and women. It’s a long read but it definitely held our attention in that we didn’t stop reading till we were through reading it and we can say that this queen gave an entire word! Read on, and be inspired!

On investing in friendships with women:
I was raised by two altruistic parents who accepted everyone despite their background. Having a heart bigger than yourself can always be either misconstrued as a symbol of weakness therefore people who fall in this category often get taken advantage of.

One of the things I Iove about this platform is the opportunity it gives me to meet and connect with strangers but, If I’m being completely transparent I have been apprehensive for a while to connect with people offline because I never fully trust the intent behind the communion. I have been traumatized by my relationship with women in this space that I found myself becoming a shell of who I knew myself to be. I spent most of my time last year examining those failed “sisterhoods” vs the successful ones and what I found common amongst the successful relationships is that those women know who they are in the world, they are dope AF, unashamed of their flaws and are unthreatened by the fullness of the lives of others because it doesn’t take away from theirs, instead it adds to it because when one person wins the energy is shared amongst all.

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On investing in friendships with women: I was raised by two altruistic parents who accepted everyone despite their background. Having a heart bigger than yourself can always be either misconstrued as a symbol of weakness therefore people who fall in this category often get taken advantage of. One of the things I Iove about this platform is the opportunity it gives me to meet and connect with strangers but, If I’m being completely transparent I have been apprehensive for a while to connect with people offline because I never fully trust the intent behind the communion. I have been traumatized by my relationship with women in this space that I found myself becoming a shell of who I knew myself to be. I spent most of my time last year examining those failed “sisterhoods” vs the successful ones and what I found common amongst the successful relationships is that those women know who they are in the world, they are dope AF, unashamed of their flaws and are unthreatened by the fullness of the lives of others because it doesn’t take away from theirs, instead it adds to it because when one person wins the energy is shared amongst all. Having this platform is sort of a catch 22. I don’t believe in friendships for the sake of leveraging, I desire to connect with people who do more of the work in the real world than they do online. As apprehensive as I have been, I recently allowed myself to throw caution to the wind. I met and connected with some beautiful souls recently who have fostered a deeper appreciation for the women in my life. I observed the sisterly dynamics between @itsarchel and @kristinslifeinpics; indeed it was beautiful seeing two women who had never met each other come together to uplift and empower one another. I sat amongst women who were accepting and allowed themselves to meet me where I was at. “Sisterhood”, it’s not about posting pictures online to express your love for one another, it’s an altruistic act of being of service regardless of what is in it for you from the transaction. It is about supporting your “sister” amongst other’s, even in her absence and above all showing up for your “sister” in real time.

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Having this platform is sort of a catch 22. I don’t believe in friendships for the sake of leveraging, I desire to connect with people who do more of the work in the real world than they do online. As apprehensive as I have been, I recently allowed myself to throw caution to the wind. I met and connected with some beautiful souls recently who have fostered a deeper appreciation for the women in my life. I observed the sisterly dynamics between @itsarchel and @kristinslifeinpics; indeed it was beautiful seeing two women who had never met each other come together to uplift and empower one another. I sat amongst women who were accepting and allowed themselves to meet me where I was at. “Sisterhood”, it’s not about posting pictures online to express your love for one another, it’s an altruistic act of being of service regardless of what is in it for you from the transaction. It is about supporting your “sister” amongst other’s, even in her absence and above all showing up for your “sister” in real time.”

Posts like these give us LIFE! Cheers to Asiyami! Cheers to Sisterhood and Cheers to Genuine Connections!

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